This summer marks the 50th anniversary of the Sexual Offences Act 1967. The Guardian newspaper has been running a feature inviting readers to tell their stories about the significance of this moment. I'm republishing my responses here.

What are your memories of the 1967 Sexual Offences Act?

I was 15 at the time, and attending a progressive/liberal boarding school. I knew my sexuality was 'different' and had been experimenting sexually with other boys for the previous three years. The Act didn't really register with me at the time - other than that some increased discussion of homosexuality in and around my school only served to heighten my fear of being exposed. The risk of being 'caught', of ridicule and of bullying was very much alive. Whilst I wanted to find other boys who felt similarly, the risk of telling anyone else about my sexual attractions were far too frightening. Beyond a small group of other boys, everything was very secret.

How did the Act make a difference to your life?

At the time, it didn't. I continued through school and then through university in the early 70's. University perhaps could/should have been an opportunity for freedom and liberation. I was entirely celibate. Fear, shame, self-protection all ruled. I didn't know other gay men. I recall sneaking a look at posters for the university Gay-Soc and thinking there was no way I could go there. I moved into teaching and youth-social work and this caused me to keep my sexuality even more secret - the fear of being thought a paedophile, and the fear of being ridiculed by the young people I was working with. It took several more years before I made the first move to phone London Gay Switchboard (anonymously!), and then to take the first tentative steps into a local gay social group.

At what point did you feel that equality had achieved – or are LGBT people yet to get there?

For the past twenty years, I've come to regard my sexuality as a fundamentally important aspect of who-I-am. It has shaped my life experience; it has presented challenges and opportunities; these experiences are core to my values of social justice. The person I am yesterday, today and tomorrow is inextricably bound up with my sexual identity. It has contributed to my path towards ordination as a minister in recent years. It continues to lead me into work with men, with gay men, and with youths about their sexual and spiritual lives and self-development.

From that point onwards, life became considerably easier - first adult relationships, coming out to family, coming out at work to colleagues, and then ever-increasing involvement with various gay networks and communities. I don't feel equality has yet been achieved. The process of 'coming out' is still a significant challenge for most gay men and women - a statement that you have to make and then can't withdraw. It's something that heterosexual men and women never have to go through.

Do you have anything to add?

One thing I am particularly pleased about. Same-sex marriages were legalised in England and Wales from March 2014. In May 2014, I married my same-sex partner in what is almost certainly the first sacred same-sex marriage in the UK - that is, a marriage solemnised in a formal place of worship and within a religious context (as opposed to the civil marriages conducted by civil registrars). The fact that I married a Non-EU citizen in that ceremony - and also needed to jump through all the hoops of UK immigration - made the barrier-breaking nature of the ceremony even more rewarding.